The branding of Kate Spade’s bright colors and fun prints has been synonymous with happiness and fun. I remember getting my first Kate Spade accessory (a fedora) back in 2011 and it always made me feel like I was bound to have a special day just by wearing that hat. That’s the power fashion and looking nice can have on a girl. It can make her feel special and beautiful when all else fails. But is it enough?
Not by a long shot.
Today I heard the news about Kate Spade’s devastated end and it broke my heart. Though her death is still subject to investigation, it pains me to think she may have experienced depression and sorrow that led her to her end. Hers was a life still so full of potential, creativity, and — yes– the potential for hope.
But here’s the thing: looking cute and ‘having it all’ will never satisfy us. Our souls are meant for more than pretty things and having an Instagram- (or Pinterest) worthy life. We were created to serve a purpose, to serve God, and to realize that our place in this world is to love others, serve the needy, and fear God.
There’s more to happiness though. Sometimes mental health isn’t about making ourselves happy. Sometimes mental health problems are chemical or mineral and need to be dealt with accordingly. Sometimes we need to talk to someone we trust or to find a medication that helps us. And when that still doesn’t feel like enough? God is there. He will get you through. He won’t let you experience more than you can bear.
You know, the Bible says that Jesus — yup, the one who you think of as always smiling and saying, “let the little children come” — was tempted by every single thing we humans are tempted by. Do you know what that means? I’m pretty sure it means he also experienced the trial of what we nowadays call depression. But did it prevail? No! He still knew He had a purpose and that He had to accomplish the goals God set out for him to do.
“He’s Jesus,” you say. “That means he already knew his purpose… so it would have been easier for him to go on through depression.” But if that were the case, don’t you think he would have taken the easier way out and chosen to die a less horrific way than being slowly tortured and murdered?
If you don’t know how to have a life-changing relationship with God, I encourage you to watch this video from my college pastor at Hope Community Church here in Minneapolis. It explains a little of what we know about God from the Bible. Then go find a pastor or friend who actually believes in Jesus as Lord and Savior, and get connected with a church. God wants to work in your life today, to give you a hope and a future. Even through depression, failure, anxiety, or sadness.
As you go about your day, please keep in mind that the individual next to you at the mall, grocery store, workplace, sidewalk, or bedroom may be hurting with more intensity than you will ever know. So take a moment to pay attention to them, to love them, to treat them like the precious fellow human that they are. Human life is precious and fleeting so don’t let another one waste away without giving them love; even tough love when needed.
Please say a prayer for her friends and family — notably her young daughter, Frances Beatrix Spade — who will be most horribly affected. For now, Kate Spade’s namesake company will live on under the Tapestry/Coach company, the fate of Frances Valentine, her current fashion label is unknown.